Another Good Night's Sleep - Gradually Feeling Better

I managed to go back to sleep and could have slept past the alarm clock too.  That's better and a small part of the problems I've been facing is back under control.

Not everything is, there's still keeping control of the Ego/Pain Body to manage and I am doing OK on that but still need to work on it.  If I can identify what is happening I can control it.  The mind/brain starts to catastrophise the situation and you need to catch that quickly.  Bring it back to right now.  I have visions about not being able to cope in a situation and yet that situation is a month off, it hasn't happened, it's unlikely to happen and worrying about something that hasn't happened and is unlikely to happen isn't a good use or my time.

That's the current fight to get over, that and now living with the loss of my working life.  What I knew for all these years has gone.  Perhaps I am grieving for its loss?  Life has a purpose if only I can now transition to retirement and enjoy it.  It is yet another learning process that has to be lived and journeyed through.  I thought I had it covered but obviously not.

Sleep Returns To Almost Normal - A Little Hope

 That was a good night's sleep, at last.  One disturbance when OH got up and so I chose to as well and managed to fall straight back to sleep, a disturbance around 6 but back to sleep and when the alarm went off I had a cheeky 10 minutes more.

I did get up with a bit of a start as if expecting some sort of action or prepared for something but that went quickly.  Imagine if you will a deadline or expectation of some sort of action required and it felt as if I needed to meet a target or undertake some sort of action, right then.  It did go as quickly as it arrived.

It's about a year ago that I launched the App and had the run in with the business partner and two years since the whole thing kicked off and the de-stabilising affect this had had on me has been massive.  I think I have always been too giving of myself in business and to be betrayed was a massive destruction of my being.

Anyway, this morning has dawned with me feeling a lot better and not with the nagging of the little voice in my head.  That will no doubt arrive sometime today but I feel I can sort that out today and not let it all get on top of me.  I've lost weight, I feel OK inside but want to lose more and it has been around 45 days without a drink and I have no desire to have a beer or a glass of wine at all.  I am down a notch on my belt size and that makes for interesting times as my trousers are at that slipping down stage.

A little hope on the horizon, some of the main issues are still present but I hope to tackle those gradually, it isn't going to happen all at once I know. 

Nag, Nag, That Voice!

 I'm in a strange place this morning.  I did quite well with sleeping and managed a full 7+ hours and then tried to go back to sleep but the nagging little voice came along and whilst I can deal with it some of the time, not all of the time.  So there was a little fight between the Ego/Pain Body and me. 

The problem is that it is a constant nagging feeding doubt and sadness and anxiety into my life that does have an affect on me.  Irrational as it is, the constant dealing with the voice in my head, can be wearisome and get me down.  When I realise what it is, I can deal with it.

The optician said I had eye floaters and now they've turned up, that too is making me feel down.  I can deal with them somewhat how I deal with my Tinnitus and that's another ongoing thing.  It can be in the background but not always.  If I pay little or no attention to it, then I can happily just get on.

However, I am concerned about this current phase of not wanting to do anything.  That's very concerning I have to say.  There's a dread of going anywhere especially if it involves being in a room like a Lodge room.  I need to snap out of that if at all possible.  I know nothing will happen to me but it is the irrational fear that is now part of it.  By association it pulls me up worrying about something that hasn't happened and is unlikely to.

The struggle continues but it isn't overwhelming me like it has done.  I can control it but I just need to be more alert and catch the signs early then I can deal with it.

How Strange - Another Diametric Shift

 Sleep - I awoke once when OH disturbed me.  Straight back to sleep.  Woke up about 30 minutes before the alarm, went back to sleep. Alarm went off I sat up, took one look, felt sleepy and had another 20 minutes!  That's the best I have slept for months and months.

I got up and feel a lot better than I have done recently and in a good mood overall and much happier and chirpier than I have so I'm feeling good this morning.  Let's see if I can maintain that.

It makes so much difference to be in a lighter, happier frame of mind I have to say.  Long may that continue.

It's A Slow Process

 It's quite painful too I think.  Getting back on your feet and it isn't nice and easy either.  Set backs along the way and better moments and without reason, deep lows.

Overall though, it is getting slightly better.  What is worrying is the part where I don't want to participate in anything, do anything, join in with anything and so on.  I'd rather not go to the meetings which are coming up and I'm not overly fussed about that either.  I've cancelled both Dentist appointments as I just don't feel I'd be in a state to go into the room and have someone stick stuff in my mouth and yet it hasn't been an issue in the past.

Going to a meeting with the worry that room will be too small and I won't enjoy it.  I can possibly work my way around that but need to have it planned out so that I can get out if I need to.  This happened years ago and I just need to breathe through it.  But it adds to the worry and that does concern me.

What Now?

 I say that as I have made good progress in sleeping.  I haven't had a beer in 41 days (I'm using an App to track it) and so somethings are better.  Not so much my confidence and claustrophobia but you know, on track and so last night I noticed some patterns (Floaters) in my left eye which is the one that the Optometrist told me had the Cataract and that I had floaters.  Well now I can see them which is disturbing and additionally I thought they'd go but no, they are here this morning.

FFS, I understand these things are age related but it is just another thing to add to my list. I'll keep a monitoring check on it in case it gets worse.

On top of that it looks as if someone I know or knew has passed away and I didn't know.  

Oh the joys of getting old! 

Back To The Drawing Board - Kind Of

 I've gone back to my past today and produced a mind-map of those things that are bothering me.  I've taken out )or will do) some money from my pension and done a review of what I have to do up until December and what my financial situation is.

I can see all the problems I "think" I have laid out as headings and I now need to add to them with sub-topics and see if I can work out what to do about it all.  It makes sense to me this way as it's what I used to do and take my customers through when reviewing etc.

I am not sure if it will help or at least perhaps compartmentalize the problems I perceive I have.  To say things are getting to me is an understatement but, of course none of these have actually properly realised themselves as of yet and so it's like a risk management plan I suppose.

What is strange is the loss of interest in things.  TV and social media but also reading.  I used to be an avid reader but now not so much.  The loss of interest is a little disturbing but I have kept away from the TV for 18 months or more only watching a few favourites, University Challenge, Only Connect, Formula ! and BTTC racing, rugby and the odd programme of interest to me - Reacher, Clarkson's Farm and perhaps a few other that I have forgotten.  The other stuff and the "personalities" and "celebrities" things bore the life out of me - who are half of these people?

The loss of interest doesn't stop there either as I really have to make myself do things and I wonder if that's just this huge crashing down to earth that retirement delivers you when you aren't expecting it and hadn't planned for it (unlike me I know).

Here we are though.  Got to make the best of a bad job I suppose?  

Roller Coaster Doesn't Even Cover This

 It's still going on and actually a few episodes of Clarkson's Farm were enough to liven my mood and I wandered off to bed and had, for me, a good night's sleep.  I was all over the place yesterday and did some work in the garden mainly to cut off branches and hopefully halt the invasion of mice into our eaves space.  There weren't any this morning but a total of 4 in three days! 

I'm feeling anger and despair, sadness and other swings in mood as stuff creeps up on me.  I know roughly what these things are but I lack the plan to discuss these at the moment fearing that it will make things worse! If it were just me and it was in my sole control then it would be something I could sort out but it isn't and I can't!

For now, I am working on how I can best manage the situation but deep down I know what must be done and I am not brave enough to do it or confront (although too harsh a word) it outright.  I can fix it but maybe they don't want to.

Day By Day, Hour By Hour, Minute By Minute

 It's different.  The thoughts arrived in my head as I woke but I quickly was able to breath through them this time, other times, I am not so lucky and I let my Ego/Pain Body loose to upset me.  It is only me that's hurting me!

Yesterday's near meltdown may have been lack of sleep but it was the closest I've been to just lying in a ball and letting it all out and 30 minutes later, I was fine.

It is how it is at the moment. One minute I can be fine and the next, well... Diametrically different and I need to control it.  What I dislike is this voice in my head that nags about when I get older and how will it be?

This morning I woke and for that very short space of time, I was calm and then for only a very short time, the pain body wanted another day of building the dread and there's plenty going on in the world that you can feed on, especially here in the UK.  I guess by the end of this month we will find out as the Budget will be out and let's face it, it isn't looking good at the moment.

Oh well, I can't affect it so will have to wait and see.  Interesting and possibly hard times ahead as the socialists run out of other people's money.  The exodus of HNW people is a sign of the times.  Those of us who cannot just pack up and leave will be left to pick up the pieces.  Troubled times are almost inevitable and none of these muppets appears to know what to do about it and yet, the vast majority do know exactly what.  Blaming us and not tackling the root cause will be their undoing and yet people still sheep like want to vote for them?  I don't get it but then I've always been an outlier. 

It Didn't Get Much Better

 Got to bed early-ish and had a bit of a cuddle with OH when she says, "Can you hear that?" - yes I could, scratching from somewhere in the room.  So got the Red Torch and started to check around the room.  It was difficult to hear where it was coming from but I thought the Eaves space but couldn't see anything in there and the mouse traps hadn't set off and as the noise had stopped.  I settled back down to sleep but 10 minutes later there it was again and so downstairs I went, got my big white bright torch and checked again.  I then placed a series of mouse traps around the room and in the Eaves.

30 minutes later snap!!  Yep got it, a mouse.  There was another but it didn't take the bait and appears to have disappeared now but the traps are out, it's that time of year.  Now I know that you probably don't like traps but these humane traps are anything but and I've found dead mice in them and, of course, you are not allowed to displace animals etc.  The traps are probably the best as it's over and hopefully no distress.

So I cleared that up this morning but we must have lost 2 or 3 hours sleep.  Hopefully we can make up for that tonight unless some more come in which is always possible I suppose.  We tend to get a batch at a time. 

Unfortunately my mood just got worse overnight and I wasn't great this morning.  I've done some work this morning and feel a bit better but not any way am I out of the woods.  I need to face some truths and I'm not ready for that just yet.  

Mind you I cancelled my two dentists appointments this morning for this week as I just felt that I couldn't face them.  Unlike me but I thought I'd get claustrophobia.   

 

Good Grief - What A Bad Day

 Not a dark black day just a total despairing sick in my throat day - close to tears all day long and a feeling of utter helplessness.  I see all the reasons but they were there yesterday and the day before and I didn't have these thoughts.

I cannot fix what I want to fix and I am waiting for a delivery but that's not it either, the problem will be there tomorrow.  All my usual tactics are not operating either.  It really is just ridiculous.  I do not feel like doing anything but want to do something and when I start I dislike it and stop as it can wait and I lose the enthusiasm for it.

It is annoying but very upsetting as today I cannot see the way out of it.  I am going to try and work through it if I can.  It is very difficult today, one of the strangest days as it isn't black or desperate like earlier in the year.  

No doubt I need to sort things out here but it isn't going to be easy and I just need a strategy to deal with it.  What a yukky day.  I've asked the OH to bring in a  bag of sweets on her way home as that might give me a sugar hit and cheer me up.  I hope so, I need out of this mindset ASAP.  

The Slip Ups Along The Way

 Pointless. meaningless and whatever else my mind came up with this morning! I was delighted that I slept through until around 6 this morning but trying to get back to sleep was difficult.  The cause was things like my current claustrophobia which isn't rational I know.  It wasn't actually suffering it but imaging a situation where I might and how to get out of that particular imagined scenario.

Then other stuff came flying in and despite me knowing that there was no substance in them my mind took over and that was it.  OH got up and I decided to get up and come downstairs!  That's annoying as I managed to get back to sleep previously this week.

Whilst I am better than I was, these little relapses just cause more anxiety even though I know there is little substance about them,

Back to the drawing board as they say.

Why The Bloody Big Hole?

 Suddenly (well the last 6 months maybe) there's nothing to get up for, nothing in terms of purpose and an empty space in my body / head where it used to be full.  It is very strange and I am dealing with it in perhaps the totally wrong way I guess?

I don't want to do anything.  Does that make sense?  Nothing truly interests me anymore.  I don't like my "stuff" I don't feel up to reading.  I listen to music but sporadically not all the time like I used to.  Not much excites me either.  I do things to keep occupied, today I fixed the silicone sealant in the wet room and di a bit of maintenance on the sink whilst I was there.  Some mould treatment for an area I spotted will happen tomorrow or another day when the treatment arrives.

I really cannot be arsed to do things.  I promised myself I'd go for some walks and I've only partly done that.  I stopped drinking, I don't know, end of August I guess.  sticking to that.  Do I miss it?  Yes I do but I've lost at least an inch if not a lot more off my waist so why go back to it.  I looked when I went shopping and I just didn't fancy it and neither do I fancy a glass of wine yet I have bottles of the stuff here.

I don't see any "purpose" in life now as it (my working life that is) was how I defined myself I suppose.  The tasks that I could do overwhelm me at the moment yet I can do a little each day to chip away at them I suppose.  I'm happy just to give it all away if I'm honest.  In fact I have a few boxes going soon of stuff I no longer use or want.

I suppose I'll get through this but it needs some effort and enthusiasm which I just do not have right now.  

I do feel like there is a huge hole in my body, hollowed out mentally and physically.  

Better - Small Steps - Slow Improvements

 Things cannot get done in double fast time and I was able to sleep well again last night which is great.  I haven't had a beer for well over a month now and I've lost weight, not where I want to, but the belly is always the last to show it.  I need to lose a lot more but already my trousers and clothes are loose, my watch slides up and down my wrist and so on.

Did giving up drinking affect me?  Maybe, I am not sure, it's not as if I crave for a beer although I do miss the habit I have to say.  There was a certain enjoyment but you cannot regularly drink beer and not put on weight.  Liquid Bread they call it and it pretty much is that.

Sleeping through or just not needing to get up is good.  I get the urge to get up but switch back off so I am pleased with that I have to say.  Steady progress.....

When The Mundane Makes Headlines

 Mundane for you but quite good for me.  A full night's sleep for me.  The first time in ages I have had a full night's seep. up just once and straight back to sleep and disturbed at 6 but managed to continue through to the alarm.

Not interesting to you perhaps but this is good news.  I spent a lot of time last night going through some Eckhart Tolle videos and that helped me settle out some of the head anxiety problems I've been having these past 2 years for it is about that sort of time that all the nastiness on the company took off and additionally the ugly meeting last year.  

That's all gone now, the business was officially wound up a few days ago and so nothing exists anymore.  Great news.

Once you empty your mind and stop worrying about what might happen you can start to get through it - the main thing is still to identify the voice in your head and to deal with it.  More in that later. 

Highs And Lows, My Topsy Turvy Times

 I surely am having a topsy turvy sort of time at the moment as I go from being OK to being in the lowest of places.  I catch myself and work on bringing myself back to equilibrium but for how long?  Sometimes days, sometimes hours and occasionally just a few moment.

It isn't easy at the moment as I never know which "ME" is going to turn up given any particular situation.  Currently I have a small project I am working on and whilst I am doing that I am OK.  When I come away from that I am find that I am straying back into the catastrophe that is my mind as it whirls about and tries to make sense of it all.  It is reminiscent of my past experiences and where that led.  I know this feeling and when I get it things change.  I am resisting that but perhaps need to accept that this is just my intuition telling me to tackle a build up of things.

Trying to steer clear of social media as best I can albeit with varying levels of success.