Monday, March 22, 2010
Still Flu Like
I had to drop a note to the boss and so delivered the "find someone else" message at the same time. I suppose that being pragmatic about it is the only thing to do. There isn't a lot I can do about that. I do worry about the 18 months to 2 years frequency that I manage to last before I need to move on although in this case, I reckon if I had stayed I would have negotiated something quite different to combat the frustrations but there is work to do after my operation in April and ideally that would be a good time to get someone in so I can show them the ropes and then move on. At least they have the option of getting me to come in and do a little support work at the same time.
Sunday, March 21, 2010
24 Hour Flu
Tomorrow is going to be a bit difficult as I know that a lot of people are going to be upset that I will be going and I also know that there is never a right time to go. However, now if right for them and for me. I can get to concentrate on what I need to put in place in the next 4 to 6 weeks. I needed to drop into the charity as a bolt hole after the disappointment and recriminations of the previous venture - amazing to think that is over 2 1/4 years ago and that the Tribunal was 2 years ago. I owe my present customer a lot but recently things have got stale and I can't influence except in the limited area that I exist in.
I hope that I shake off this cold for tomorrow morning. I really could do with getting into work and sorting things out with them. I am out on at least three nights this week too. One of those is a business engagement.
Saturday, March 20, 2010
That's Good
I actually have empty cupboard space too which is nice. So Mrs. F. is OK with me taking 6 months to go for it with my new venture. It makes sense to limit this to October of this year so that at least we can make a decision whether to chuck it in or continue.
I'm feeling happy and sad all at the same time. I have to tell work on Monday that all bets are off and I'll see what the reaction is to that. Not good in some quarters I'm sure.
The reminder of the weekend is about sorting this room out and getting ready to hit he ground running some time in April.
Friday, March 19, 2010
End Game
A weekend of planning ahead then.
Thursday, March 18, 2010
Timing is rubbish
You see, most people think I'm just having a few issues with my other business and a few have serious doubts about whether I will stay. I am having my own problems in that I need my colleague to be made redundant for me to take the jump and he and I can go and work together to get our project off the ground. That is the plan. Of course all the nagging doubts are there and the what if situation about who replaces me and how much involvement I keep with the job. I hope that they get someone better than me in a way so that they move on further and really develop the stuff I've started. The problem I have is that I'm loathe to get involved in something that I may not finish.
I think I should know tomorrow or at the weekend how it is panning out. Next week I am in the office most days I think but it could get really uncomfortable especially if I am going to leave.
Hello Fiji
I'm pretty much happy to walk home myself as I only live 20 minutes away but I am sure no one will allow that - unless I don't tell anyone that is!! How do single people manage? Anyway - that at least means that I can have a light breakfast and plenty of water to make sure I don't dehydrate like I did on one of my earlier operations.
It is less than a month away now so feeling a little down about it already. That happens and is only natural I guess. To be apprehensive is part of the territory I guess. Hopefully, and how many times have I said this, this one will be the last of these procedures and I will have a flexible cystoscopy next time. OK that isn't nice either but it sure beats this malarkey of having to be pumped full of chemicals and finding a catheter stuck in you when you wake up and a cannula stuck in the back of your hand. Sheesh!!
It is also getting very close to decision time with my job - I can only imagine what kind of reaction there will be to that when it happens. I need to position that correctly especially as I will still be around for a little bit to help out. Who knows what the future will bring.
Wednesday, March 17, 2010
Off to Celebrate Flocky's Birthday
I have foolishly stated that I will buy Flocky some Champagne which could make a serious dent in my wallet.
It will be good to get out and about and to meet a number of the troops again.
Nothing like a bit of Schindler's List
You can hardly believe that all of that is still within living memory and you can't even begin to imagine the utter horror of it all. I think you get a little insight into the fear if you've had cancer, maybe and so perhaps it drags out those experiences when I watch it. It's a very special film without a doubt.
Tuesday, March 16, 2010
Yuk Day
I may work from home tomorrow as it at least Ii can regulate the temperature and I can get a load more done. I shall think about that overnight. Time gets nearer to a decision. I feel myself wanting to hurry up and make the jump yet I cannot until my colleague's fate is sealed - possibly this Friday.
Monday, March 15, 2010
Almost a seminal day
A good meeting but it has left me in limbo land as such as I'd like to tell my people to start looking for my replacement knowing that I am off to do my project.
At least we concluded that our venture has a future and that it needs to be worked on now. That said, it is by no means certain that we will get it to market, get funded or anything else! Happy Days :-)
The only constant in this life is change!
Gradually
When I say normal, as normal as you are going to get because cancer changes your life anyway, it doesn't appear to have changed my underlying psychological profile but it has changed my attitude to life, the way I look at things and the way I do - or do not - care for people these days. I beginning to reclaim my life again and take back those things that my cancer took from me. The one thing I missed the most though was my brain - it still isn't all back here like it used to be but I am getting back to my sharpest again and that bodes well for me but not for my current customer/empoyer.
Decision Day
At times like this, it is important to make a decision to move on or kill the idea. I'd like to give it a full time effort for 6 months and see where we have arrived at. At that time, if nowhere then I'd have to rethink. It is one of those hard decisions as it requires moving out of a comfort zone and to put some faith into my own abilities to get something done. I have no doubt that I can achieve this or at least take things to their logical conclusion - that may be that we decide after 6 months to not continue. At least we will know.
Today will sure be interesting.
Sunday, March 14, 2010
Good Bye Piano
It is just another one of those things that I find we are now getting rid of from the house. It is most probably a good thing.
Big day tomorrow as I meet up with my colleague to decide what me might do in terms of setting up our business venture. We need to step up to the plate or decide not to do it. Perhaps we may procrastinate for a little while longer but it mustn't be too long.
It will soon be April and he will be away - I will be in Hospital and somehow we need to arrange our current business affairs and get ready for this new thing or make arrangements for it. For me - I need to make the decision as soon as possible so that I can arrange with work to get a replacement and to then cover off the other things I am doing.
Saturday, March 13, 2010
I heard this and it will be with me in April
I heard this music some time ago - Very nice. The video is interesting too.
Friday, March 12, 2010
A game of "what time is it?"
Flocky and I were due to meet earlier in the day but eventually it was late afternoon before we finally touched base. after sorting out a load of bits and pieces we retired to the pub for a beer and a packet of Peanuts or in my case, some nice Pork Scratchings (I must stop eating those!!)
After a couple of beers I disappeared off to the toilet and on my way back glanced at my watch. Noting the time I asked young Flocky what time he thought it was and he concurred with me (before I had seen my watch) that it was no later than 8:30 but probably more like 8 pm. Mmmmm. Well it was more like 10 pm and we still had a pint of beer to consume. Hence I arrived home at 10:45 without having had tea or supper and am now recounting this strange story.
Tomorrow is our Lodge meeting and so I am looking forward to that and the meal afterwards. It is nice to meet some of our Lodge members and catch up with what they have been up to. Unfortunately one of our members, now gting on for 93 is not so well. We hope that he will soon be back to his normal self but the news isn't great. He seconded me into the Lodge and so I have strong ties to him. We will find out a bit more tomorrow from his daughter, herself in her 70s.
Friday - at home
I hope this will be a little relaxing day off and one that I can sit back and do a bit of reflective thinking. Suddenly, now the boss knows the score some of the weight on my shoulder has come off and I hadn't realised that I was beating myself up about it quite so much.
I did four days at work this week - not without some bitching - but I managed it and perhaps next week I will get a better increase in productivity and sanity. At least I have broken the back of the main stuff for this year already.
L got her results yesterday and had a mixed bag from a straight A to a fail. She isn't phased by it although one result was much lower than she expected. She knows now what to do about it. That's good and she is focussed on becoming a teacher and she has the tenacity to do it. She has just stuck to a diet that has seen her lose a lot of weight in a controlled way, a year before she went without eating chocolate for a year. I think I know where she gets that stubbornness from :-)
I've just come off the phone from talking with my colleague who is working with me on this other project and we will meet on Monday to decide what to do - that may finally make us take the decision to get going or park our project and move on.
And Now the Boss knows and growing up
This morning I noticed a large Charity sack by the front door and so I peeked inside (as you do) and there were lots and lots of cuddly toys. Stuff from Disneyland and Beanie toys we had bought when the kids were young and it was obviously going on to a good place and will be sold to make someone's life a little better. I'm all for that - I work in a charity - it's what I do.
However, it was a bit more profound than that. I stared into the bag and there were the memories of my little girls staring back at me. Happy times, magic times, we did enouy ourselves then and they had these "things" that meant a lot then but mean nothing now. Somehow they meant a lot this morning and I got one of my "Bambi moments" - hell this cancer nonsense really screws up your hormones. I was really moved - not upset that they were getting rid of these childish things as they were going to a good home and were for a good cause and I'm proud that both girls do things like this and give of their time and give freely of these things that probably just clutter up their rooms. To me, of course, these things were hard earned things. I worked to buy them and in reality I don't want to sound sore about it but they probably mean a lot to me because they are associated with happy times, growing up, fun, play and all the good stuff about having kids. It also drags me back to those pre-cancer days and it also reminds me that my children are grown up now. No Longer children at all. Young Ladies. A is 20 in a few weeks time and L will be 17 in August. It isn't the cost or anything to do with that - to me it is the loss of the item that may bring back a memory for me. The kids adored these things and now they are just discarded - I'm not sure I know what more to say on the subject - it just made me feel bad and realise that things move on.
I was just left with a hole this morning that is all, it felt like I'd had something ripped away from me but it wasn't the toys themselves just what memories that they surfaced.
The boss called me in today and we had a chat. I think that someone must have told him that I wasn't best pleased with the way things have been and whilst he acknowledged that we also agreed that one of two things was about to happen. They are keen to get me on full time working. I had to explain the 2 factors of the operation and the possibility that my other job will burst into life but I also had to reassure him that I would not just walk away. I owe them far more than that.
Cards are now played and I feel happier about that. I prefer to play a relatively straight bat in these cases and this little chat did that. More later next week.
Finally I met with my Nephew and an old friend J at a lively bar in London. I have to say that after a number of rather delicious pints of Tangle Foot, I wandered home and Mrs. F (bless her) came and gave me a lift home and some tea.... I needed that :-)
It has been a funny old day with the disturbing bit followed by the relief of "confession" to my boss about what I think may happen. The trouble about that is - who knows what the future will bring?
Wednesday, March 10, 2010
Turmoil sets in
I enjoyed work today -well most of it, the the boss p1ssed me off tonight. A typo on a letter that has gone out some months ago has been discovered and wants me to phone everyone up and tell them or write a letter acknowledging said cock up. Frankly it shouldn't have happened but it did and it isn't that important except to them - I think my email back almost saying "no one died did they?" may have been a bit of an overreaction but in a two page letter which only needed to be three paragraphs anyway, something was bound to go wrong. They need to stop writing by committee.
So that set me into the opposite of the good day I had actually had. It is mixed emotions time as I really want to do less time there and concentrate on putting to bed one way or the other, for good or bad, this other business idea my colleagues and I are working on. It needs closure and if I gae it 6 months and got nowhere I can at least say I tried. I would then have the problem of what to do thereafter but that problem (if it is one) can wait until then. Being positive, it could actually give me something to hang my hat on and to concentrate on and to use the other 99% of my talent not used where it is at the moment.
I at least managed 4 days work this week at the office - almost a record I reckon.
Tuesday, March 09, 2010
Walking home tonight
I got to remembering coming home on the last train, getting up and catching the first train out some 4 hours later and working my ar*e off for lots of years, working 12 or 15 hours a day, every day for years and years and years.
Where did it get me? You know that I believed I actually missed that life style. I was young, my children were tiny, I worked hours and hours and I didn't do badly really. There was money for an extension to the house and I did all those "good things" you are meant to do as the bread winner and what exactly have I got out of that "deal"?
Sure - I have great children - hardly children - young adults - working - at school and university - doing what THEY want to do and knowing that they can do that without let or hindrance or limitation. There's a house, cars in the drive, clothes on everyone's backs, food in the cupboards and everything else and somehow - I'm not satisfied with this lot. Am I a failure? No. What exactly is the problem?
I wondered tonight as I walked back retracing and remembering those steps was it all worth it? Could I have got here without all that strain and stress, the long hours etc? Yet, I think I actually enjoyed it - the buzz of making money and being in control of part of my own destiny. The fast and furious world of the London financial world during the big bang and after. I threw myself at my job and I loved it. I enjoyed the power and the privilege, controlling and dealing in millions and doing something worthwhile and yet - you've never heard of me or know what I've done.
The struggle these days is that I long for the energy and buzz I had then but do you know what? I look back now and wonder whether I was actually that much better off. Did I have a better time, or better work environment and a better life (we know the answer is probably not). Life has taken on a different meaning these past few years and I just don't appreciate that slowing down and "jsut doing a job" may actually be what is best for me at the moment.
Mind you I have never been "normal" and maybe that is also a factor.
Strange what runs through your mind when you walk home late...
Sunday, March 07, 2010
Some office clearing done
I managed to get a fair bit done over the weekend and that has made a start for some of the stuff I needed to do. The rest of the stuff is still outstanding and I realised that I am beginning to get behind on everything because of the trouble I am having balancing my work, social and my other work jobs.
I've just lost a bit of discipline with work because of all the rushing around I have had to do but perhaps I can catch up this week. I just need to sit down tomorrow morning and plan that out.
The stuff Ii have to do for my social life is also getting behind as I should have done some accounts and paperwork but haven't and I also need to work out about the "other" job too.
I am still trying to work out what to do for the best and what I really want to do isn't the easy road - and yet I believe that I should do it. Taking a decision that may well lead to a little hardship and something that will put me out isn't easy. I hope that I will be able to rationalise it down the next few weeks as at the moment I really am procrastinating.
I have about 5 weeks until the procedure and so I am thinking along the lines of making that a bearing on my decision as well. I may not know the outcome until a month later although they often say what the visual result is when I come to. In a way, I am less confident about this one than the one before. Not that I feel worse or anything like it but I am acting a bit stranger these days - perhaps that's just me getting older and getting back to my old self. Maybe I ought to set out what I used to be like before Bladder Cancer at some stage so I can review the major changes that have happened.
For the moment though, it was nice day today, we went walking in the spring sun through the woods and fields near here and it was a pleasant break from being stuck in the office. It was good to see the snowdrops and crocus flowers poking their heads out and let's hope spring is finally here.