Looking At This All Wrong

 It struck me as I continue to analyse things, possibly way too much, that I am looking at this all wrong and taking a view that there is something wrong that needs to be answered and that it is my fault and that's actually not what it is at all.

The current nastiness is not caused by anything that I have done it is because the other party has unilaterally taken action without thought and after some time realised that the consequences of their own actions have backed them selves into a blind alley and painted the exit.

I have been looking at the details and not the bigger picture on this.  These actions are neither logical or well thought through and they are scatter gun in nature, there's no obvious solution to their actions.  It's quite a different scenario when you helicopter view this.  

I cannot solve their problem which I wanted to do, I want to take the path of peace but no, they don't want to do that as they've assembled on the field of battle ready for war.  I've offered negotiation and they don't want that.  Realising that, I have to do..... Nothing, no thing.  It's not my actions that have got him where he is, it's not in my gift to repair whatever "wrong" there might be because, that isn't made clear and in fact the whole thing is a muddle.  I'm surprised at whoever is advising him for taking this massively aggressive approach when a reconciliation is what they should be trying to achieve.

So this epiphany struck me last night in the middle of copious note making.  I write all the time and it gets it out of my head on to paper and then moments like this occur.  At times like this the absurd is never far from my mind and it brought to mind 'Monty Python and the Holy Grail' film.  Do you remember the Bridgekeeper at the Bridge of Death, they are asked three questions. The first is, "What... is your name?" The second is, "What... is your quest?" and the third, for some characters, is "What... is the airspeed velocity of an unladen swallow?"

Mine goes something along the lines of "What do you want?" no more, no less.  If you resigned from a job and left it with immediate effect and cut off all attempt to communicate (your choice), washed your hands of the part of the project you were doing and walked away commercially and physically with no further communication as a demand.  How is that anyone's choice but your own and how is that my problem?  I've been left with a part finished project and Hobson's choice on completing it.

Now, he wants something but it's not clear what he wants?  He threatens me but wants me to enter into some sort of third hand correspondence and is demanding things that he has no rights to?  Plus he didn't want any contact after he left abruptly.  Oh well, there's me, trying to do the right thing and actually, it doesn't deserve any more of my time.  There's no remedy requested, no apology for his disgusting behaviour, no way forward and nothing that I can do to relieve him of the consequences of his dire and crass decision.   

It's taken a while to get here but when you boil it down and look at it over and over enough times and play the various scenarios you eventually hit on the truth of the matter and then you have a light-bulb moment and intuitively recognise what you missed before.