I am quite anxious at the moment. Dealing with irrational and unstable people used to be OK back in the day but this is another level. A business matter is OK I guess but this is nasty, personal, ad-hominem attacks and relate to something he "thought" I said. Rather than let that go it has metastasised into this full blown personal series of attacks and now a removal from the company as director.
Don't throw stones I was taught, keep it business (if it is business) and at least comprehend that there is no plan should he succeed, the company will go to the wall especially as he will not compensate for any work or expense undertaken. Hence, it's personal. Added to that he hides behind solicitor's letters.
We always referred to this sort of person as a coward. It's a slightly deranged, vendetta fuelled below the belt nonsense of the very worst kind. He seeks to remove me which he can only do by now involving his friends, fellow shareholders for without their unanimous vote it cannot become reality. Indeed if he garners their support in his head he will defeat me and then take my place. Under the old regime that would indeed work yet he has not been involved for almost a year now so that his eye is blinded to the new structure which will fail his attempt at a coup d'état. But I get to see the whites of their eyes and that's probably a good thing.
But, I find it stressful, far more than I ever did in the past and I think because this guy whom I've known for a long time turned from a nice well mannered person to a rude vengeful person in a few days. It's concerning I wonder if he is ill? I am probably more worried about how he will take to losing the vote. Ideally if just one of his friends having now read the accusations that he has made and then seeing his original letter that kicked all of this off abstains or votes against then he will lose his motion, without me worrying too much. Here's the thing though, I out vote him and his friends and I am sure that he will kick off when he loses, that sort often do as they have no plan B and they fail to accept that their own actions have consequences.
Years back I used to ruthless in this sort of scenario and it was part of the job to skewer people who acted a bit like this. They'd get to the end of a meeting to suddenly find that they'd been hoisted by their own petard. Like in martial arts, you use their own strength against them and only afterwards would they realise that they left with less than they arrived with.
It troubles me that this chap is coming for me in the most vile and disgusting ad hominem way and has finally built himself up to his full height to face me in a meeting and his "empire" will crash and burn before him. I don't think he has the mental ability to see his arguments lost and suffer defeat and I, feel sorry for him. I don't like the idea of his inevitable defeat playing on his unhinged mind but as I said above, there are plenty of examples of this sort of behaviour, Hoist by your own petard (Hamlet), those who Live by the sword, die by the sword etc
I am trying not to be vengeful and I am finding it difficult given the awful things he has said about me and the off hand way he wishes to dispose of me from the business (no compensation, surrender of shares for no consideration etc). So perhaps, just perhaps, I need to reflect on this that I am fighting my own internal emotional battle on his behalf, trying to forgive but it is my ego wants him to take a punishment beating for how evil he has been to me and that's not really the way, my way.
The struggle is that he's a sad, vengeful, vindictive old man and I am about to deliver a crushing blow to his vexatious behaviour and I have tried to resolve this amicably but he wants "his day in court" well in a meeting where he topples and overthrows the King and picks up the reins himself. He will probably be extremely upset at the end of the meeting and I care about that. Maybe I do not need to. I just need to look after myself and the business and forget about him and his strange behaviour. It's like those neighbours disputes you see on the news where they've been feuding over how high their hedge is.
It isn't worth worrying about of course, he's the one being an arse not me. Whilst this is the last throw of his dice it probably wont be. I am sure he will keep on sniping from the sidelines. Good luck to him and to me, I just need to re-read this and re programme my head.
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